Holding on to some pain is common but after a certain time you must learn to let it go
The first thing to do is to get totally honest with yourself and decide who you want to be. Even though you may have been victimized, you don’t have to remain a victim. It’s one of those internal decisions that is confounding. Yes, what you went through changed you and made your life different from other people, but you do have a choice here. You don’t have to live in victim consciousness; you can move through it if you’re ready to do the mental work that’s needed.